Runaway bride, a cute cliché movie about a woman who didn’t know herself and left men at the wedding alter. And also a bit of my life. Though at least my runaway was a week out when it got called off at the age of 26.
My mom’s side of the family has always been close, and
large. Lots of cousins and most of them were married just out of college and had four plus children before they were 30. One of my uncles once said to me, “You just don’t want to get married.” And I suppose with opportunities to and at my age, it may look that way. But I’m not sure that’s true. I think I just do things a little differently.
I have always been an analytical person. One thing I analyzed pretty quickly about my life was that I needed to know myself first. To know what I want from and for myself and from and for others. Let me put it this way.
A good friend was just telling me the other day how his father used to own a furniture shop. My friend admitted that he struggled with the fact that his father would have everything on “sale” each weekend. He felt it might be misleading and asked his father about it. His father explained it like this. “People will not notice the sale until it is time to buy. Once they decide to buy, the sale only gives them a reason to come into the store where our furniture is always well priced.” Being ready to buy the customers are more likely to find something quickly and make the purchase.
I thought to myself; but I’m the girl that when I moved into a small one bedroom in Brooklyn waited 3 months to buy a couch. Instead I sat on a blow up mattress and searched over 20 stores throughout NY. I had in mind the type of couch, not the exact couch, but the qualities that I wanted.
So I looked and looked. I measured the space to the half inch. And then finally one day it happened; I found the couch! It was beautiful, and totally worth waiting for. And 9 years later I love it. With the investment I put in, I take painstaking care of it. I am happy that I didn’t just pick the first couch or succumb to my friend’s pressure to hurry up.
Much like the couch, I want to be patiently searched for by someone and vice versa. Regardless of what age they are, many people decide that it is “time to buy a couch” and make a quick purchase. They don’t measure. They don’t think much on how it will fit into their space, will it be practical?
I don’t want to be the plaid polyester couch they buy on sale as soon as they walk into the store because they are ready to buy. I want to be that suede-ish, 3 part couch, with a hid-e-way bed that fits perfectly into the designed space.
I think for that I will wait.